Sunday, June 21, 2020

guess who didn't stay 6 feet apart during quarantine?

hello, everyone! 

we're super excited to announce that we are naturally, spontaneously, unexpectedly... pregnant! 


we remain entirely optimistic yet sincerely grounded with the realities that come with this news. 

as the same with our last natural pregnancy that ended at 12 weeks, we are under the mindset of "everything is good until it isn't". 

my fertility center was able to get me in on friday (the same day we found out!) for bloodwork. my numbers are great so far, and i'll go back next friday to repeat bloodwork and make any changes as needed. we'll be completing genetic testing as soon as we can for viability. 

we appreciate your love, your thoughts, your prayers, and your good juju for this entire experience. keeping our friends and family updated with our beautiful life is something that comes natural. most people won't share our beliefs, and that's fine. it's therapeutic to tell our story and we hope that someone will take something away from it.

much love, 
the dent family

Sunday, May 10, 2020

Mother's Day

It's bittersweet, honestly.

I never thought that I would have a chance to celebrate this day, and here we are! Emma Grace is 7 months old and the absolute light of our life.

She makes me a better person.
She helps me learn from my mistakes.
She lets me be silly.

I've learned so much from this blessing and I can't even put into words how amazing this feels. She's ours! Finally.

Without the love of my mom, my grandmas, my mother in law... this surely wouldn't feel as wonderful as it does!

So.

Happy Mother's Day to all those mamas out there.

And to the ones struggling to become mamas... I see you and I get you. Take this day to relax and put your feet up - you deserve it.

Now, little miss is waking up so I must go and sing her the good morning song. Besides, her morning cuddles are always the best!

Tuesday, February 11, 2020

the birth of emma grace

*Warning: Long story ahead! And TMI. (duh)

*Also, trigger warning. My c-section wasn't all that great.

On  Monday, October 7th, I had my last OB appointment scheduled with my amazingly sweet doctor, Dr. Mutscheller. She has been such a godsend through this entire process and I don't know what I would have done without her!

Nothing had changed (ugh!), I was still maybe dilated to a 1, and she hadn't dropped. SO, we went ahead and scheduled a c-section for that upcoming Thursday - yay! Only a few days away!

Zack's mom, Dianne, and my mom, Bobbie, had both already come in and were helping me out tremendously since Zack was on his way home, driving back from Ohio. They were making sure that we had everything ready for this little bundle of joy that was coming soon!

As Monday turned into Tuesday, I had a quick phone call to Zack since he got into Nebraska late, and mentioned how our Alice boo was acting strange. Usually she jumps right into bed with me and cuddles up snug, but instead she laid by the door and didn't really want to much to deal with me.

My emotions were already thinking the worst - was she upset because she knew there was a baby in there?! Why didn't she want to be with me?!

Around 1:15am, I woke up suddenly with the urge to pee (TMI? eh, this is a birth story, nothing is TMI!) and, well, peed all over myself... or so I thought. Once I got back into bed, it happened again and that's when I started to think that maybe it was my water.

I mean, I had never had my water break before, so how should I know?

Going downstairs, I told my mom and we decided that if it happened again, we would go into labor and delivery. I laid in bed, tried to call Zack, unsuccessfully, and waited. An hour later, it happened again, and well, we were off to LDS Hospital!




Zack wasn't answering his phone, so of course, I panicked. I called his hotel and was transferred to his room, where a very confused and sleepy husband answered the phone.

"Hello?"
"Zack!"
"Uh."
"It's your wife!"
"...I know."
"I think my water broke."
"Wait. You THINK?!"

Ha. We left the house around 4am, Zack leaving his hotel around the same time with coffee, every one of us nervous about the anticipation of what was happening. Was this it? Or was I about to embarrass myself and have a nurse tell me that I really just peed myself?




Once we arrived and got settled into a room, they tested fluid and what do you know - my water really had broken! The L+D nurses called Dr. Mutscheller, where we started medication to soften my cervix. I still had no contractions and was not dilated - so no one was concerned that the baby was coming before Zack could get there (I mean... he was 720 miles away!).




Those 15 hours were definitely the easiest! I had breakfast, lunch, continued with the meds - with no change - and kept in constant contact with Zack. We watched movies (Jurassic Park for the win!) and waited for any kind of change. Around 5pm I started getting uncomfortable - more contractions showed up and my hips (hello, bursitis) were really starting to hurt.





I took a shower, had an amazing visitor (You're the best, Amanda!), and Zack arrived with food! It was definitely nice to take some time and just relax off the monitors before the real fun began.

Around 8pm, the anesthesiologist came in and inserted my epidural with no problems! It worked amazingly. 8:30pm, they started the Pitocin, and I had NO idea - I was watching my contractions on the screen and couldn't feel a thing.

Zack and I were able to get some much needed sleep. Our sweet nurses woke me up around 12:30am to check on me and see how I was doing. I felt fine - but my hips really hurt, and after telling her that, she decided to check me - and what do you know, I was at 9.5 centimeters! Things started picking up and Dr. Mutscheller arrived to get the show on the road!




I started pushing around 1:30am, and did great! It did take a couple times for me to get the hang of it, but after that things really started progressing... and then it didn't. Pushing took everything out of me - I was throwing up, so incredibly hot, and my hips were on fire. Also, no one tells you about the shakes. I swear, no matter that I did, my entire body shook! We ended up taking a 15 minute break where I was able to take a quick cat nap and continue.

But... her head just couldn't get through, so after 3 hours of pushing, we made the call to do a c-section.


 


We were warned about the possibility of extra bleeding because of all the pushing, but I was just done and knew that this was the only way I'd get to see our little girl. I was terrified! What if something went wrong, how was the recovery time... this wasn't what I was prepared for!

But I trusted my doctor, and knew that she had me 110%, so off we went!


 




Zack was perfect. He held my hand, told me everything was going to be okay, and was just so incredibly attentive during the whole process.

And then, that incredible moment came.

The moment that I knew I would never be the same again.
The moment my heart grew two sizes.
The moment our miracle baby came into this world.

Zack's voice was indescribable as he exclaimed, "There she is! Look at her!"

Y'all. I melted.

I heard her little cries and all I could do was think, 'We did it!'




She was passed through to a group of pediatrician's who looked her over and made sure she was okay. Zack went with her, and I couldn't wait until I saw them both again. 

I remember feeling really odd, the shakes finally stopped, but all of a sudden felt really warm. Turns out, because of all my pushing, I bled wayyy too much, and lost almost 2 liters of blood. My doctor is amazing and was able to control everything effectively (yay!) but I ended up having to get two  blood transfusions while in the hospital (boo). 

When Zack and Emma finally walked back into the OR, my heart melted all over again. 

"Seven pounds, 14 ounces!" He announced, cradling our sweet baby girl. 




Y'all. I just had a baby, was still on the operating table, and my ovaries went mad. 

She was put in my arms, we were wheeled back to our labor and delivery room where the grandmas couldn't get enough of her (I mean, who could blame them?). 

Our lives were just beginning! 

Wednesday, January 29, 2020

January 29

One year ago today, we had one of the most important moments of our lives.

As most of you are well aware, pregnancy didn't come easy for us, so we had to go through two rounds of IVF. When the second round produced two healthy embryos, we scheduled our Frozen Embryo Transfer for January of 2019.

We knew that we weren't guaranteed to get pregnant, so our emotions ran high for the entire month.

Would this work?
Would we get pregnant?
What happens if we don't?

There were so many questions and so many worries, yet we continued to think positive and hope for the best.

Appointments, ultrasounds, blood work... January ended up flying by, and once my lining was absolutely perfect, we had our transfer day... the 29th!

It was a cold, beautiful morning. Once we arrived to Utah Fertility Center in Pleasant Grove, it was game on! Our "lucky socks" from Utah Infertility Resource Center were kept with us in our little room and we were ready to go.





Dr. Gurtcheff came in and explained the process to us. Our embryo was taken out that morning and began to hatch perfectly!


The whole process took about 25 minutes. 5 minutes for the wait and prep, 5 minutes for the procedure, and about 15 minutes of laying down and resting. It was so cool! We were able to watch everything on the screen/ultrasound, so we could see the exact moment she was implanted. 

I took about 4-5 "Princess days", rested up, and waited... 

Y'all. It was so hard. 

I remember panicking 4 days in, worrying about every little sign. I was cramping - does that mean it failed?! That night, I went upstairs and decided to take a test. I didn't tell Zack because I knew that he would tell me to wait... but I'm not a patient person and I just needed to know.

Would you just look at that... 4 days into a 5 day transfer, I had a positive.  


So, January 29 is a pretty big day in our house, and I'm sure now you can understand why! 



Friday, January 24, 2020

Our Top 5 Baby Gadgets

I know, I know.

There are SO many baby items out there, am I right? And there's just as many lists and articles telling new moms what they should or shouldn't have. 

Every time we go into Target or Buy Buy Baby I'm always amazed at how many new and cool gadgets there are. (By the way, is it "cool" to say "cool" anymore? I can't keep up with slang). 

So, you can imagine that as a first time mom, it is so incredibly overwhelming to come up with what you "need" vs what you "want" on your precious registries. I mean, I wanted a baby swing, but do you think she liked it? Nope! It went onto Facebook Marketplace and was replaced with a 4 moms mamaroo

-Sigh-

Every one has opinions about what worked for them vs. what will work for you. So if you WANT that cool high chair, get it. Babies are precious, individual creatures and you'll never know what they'll like until they'll tell you they don't. 

As another example, diapers. Our hospital used Huggies, and since I didn't stock up on diapers (I don't recommend doing this - you'll never know what size they'll be in, and they grow so quickly that you may only use one box of one size - also, guilty), I ordered a box of the same brand to be sent to the house. 

We decided we'd try other brands, since we did have a few boxes we received as gifts. NOPE, SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THAT. Rashes and leaks, oh my. Once we switched back to Huggies Little Snugglers, we knew we found a winner and couldn't change it. 

So, here's a list of some things that we've found super helpful in the first 15 weeks of newborn life. 



I can't tell you how many people told us that they never used theirs and how much of a waste it was. So, when a close, trusted friend told us to put it on our registry, we did... and they bought it for us! Honestly, I was so hesitant at first because I wasn't sure if we'd really use it. I put it downstairs in our living room next to the pack 'n play because I knew that's where we would be spending the majority of our time. 

It has been a lifesaver! It's so easy to use, the refills are super cheap on Amazon, and you can't smell any smelly diapers when you walk into the house. You have to change it every other day, but you can literally do that one handed. We love ours so much we even bought a second one for upstairs use! 



When this was first suggested to us, I kindly declined because I was planning to exclusively breastfeed. But, life has a way of happening and we had to supplement with formula, which we are 100% okay with. As long as our baby is getting healthily fed, we don't care!

For a while we were okay with "manually" (haha) mixing her formula bottles, but once we remembered this fabulous suggestion, we jumped right on it! It has been the best feeding purchase we've made. It creates a warm bottle in just minutes! Just make sure to always keep it full of formula and water (sometimes I forget, which creates a fog at 6:30 in the morning), and clean the funnel. I like to clean and sanitize all the parts once a week. 


3. LOVEVERY Play Gym

I know, I know, the price! We actually found ours on Facebook Marketplace, barely used, with ALL parts! One of the main reason we wanted this activity mat was because of how simple it was. No flashing lights, no loud electronic noises or toys.

There are five different zones where you can place your baby down on for tummy time and watch them learn! They have zones for sound, touch, focus, hiding/finding, colors. There's also a cover that goes on top of it to become a tent! It can truly be used educationally for up to a year, which is amazing play.


4. Chicco Bravo Primo Travel System

A stroller and car seat combo is something that you definitely need, so I fully recommend going to a store (like Buy Buy Baby) where you can look at them, push them around, and pick up the carriers to see what you like/don't like. One of the main reasons we picked this system was because the handle on the stroller is adjustable, and was the highest that we could find. Since Zack is so tall, it was imperative that we found something comfortable for him and I to use.

The fabric is easy to clean, the straps and buckles are great quality, the stroller folds and unfolds super easy, and the storage basket on the bottom of the stroller is huge! We've also found that once we put the carrier in the stroller and use both canopies, it hides babe really well - which works great for germs and people.


5. Boppy Pillow

The Boppy is a must have that can be used for all ages. I ended up taking it into the hospital for easy feeding because of my c-section. It's perfect for feeding and holding while they're in the newborn stage, as well as tummy time and propping up for when they're older! The cover comes off for easy washing (hello, spit up stains) and you can even buy different ones for different occasions.

Of course, don't use them for sleep (follow the safe sleep ABC's - Alone, on their Back, in their Crib). 

*y'all. I'm not getting paid for any of this, just so you know. This is all my own personal opinion and I hope someone finds it useful! 

Sunday, January 12, 2020

How A Mint Always Ruined My Day

I know, right? A mint? Surely she must be exaggerating...

Well...

As some of you know, I developed gallbladder issues while pregnant. It started out as back pain, then got to the point where it wrapped around my ribs, and I was physically nauseous... so much worse than my regular pregnancy nausea. I felt so much intense, righteous pain that I knew I must have been in pre-term labor.

While in Labor + Delivery, I was diagnosed with gallstones and was having a gallbladder attack. UGH. It was absolute torture! My OB assured me that it can be taken out AFTER my pregnancy, which I was fine with, but still had those awful attacks until I gave birth.

I honestly hoped that I was out of the woods and those attacks would disappear after I gave birth, but nope. After a few attacks (all in the middle of the night, when Em was still waking up every 3-4 hours) I made an appointment with my GP, and then a referral was made to a general surgeon, I FINALLY had a surgery date - December 30.

I was told all the things - don't wear makeup, wash your hair, don't eat or drink within 8 hours of your surgery time...

Easy peasy, right? I thought so too.

The morning of my surgery, I thought hey, we're going to be right in the neighborhood, why not get my eyebrows and nose waxed before we go? Two birds, one stone.

Y'all.

I love my waxing place. We've been going there since we moved to Utah, and they've always been so pleasant and kind. They also have the BEST mints on the counter, so after every session, I'd always pop a few in my mouth and enjoy. I've been doing this for years.

So when we went to checkout, after telling our esthetician about the surgery, I handed her my signed receipt and automatically grabbed a few mints and popped them right in my mouth. SO good! It was like I hadn't eaten in 12 hours or something.

(Still hadn't hit me.)

We go next door to the chiropractor since we were still early and Zack got adjusted. As we were checking out there, it hit me.

I ATE SOME MINTS BEFORE A SURGERY AND I WAS TOLD NOT TO.

I was FREAKING out. Poor Zack had to deal with me worrying the entire way into the hospital, and he could only laugh. OF COURSE I would eat something before surgery!

Once I was checked in, the nurse thought it was fine since it would be about 3 hours until they took me back into the operating room, but would check with my surgeon and anesthesiologist.

When my surgeon came into my room, he gasped. "YOU HAD A MINT?!?!"

Instantly, my hands went to my face. "YES! It was about an hour and a half ago and-"

He laughed.

"It's okay! I'm not worried. By the time we get you back in the delivery room, the appropriate amount of time will have passed. Besides... it was just a mint!"

WHEW. I could finally breathe. Everything was going to be fine! But, seriously, just a mint?! I fretted over this debacle for hours!

Then my anesthesiologist walked into the room a few minutes later. "SO YOU'RE THE ONE WHO ATE A MINT?!"

-Cue the embarrassment.
-Cue the laughter.

Y'all.

I literally thought a mint was going to ruin my day. 

guess who didn't stay 6 feet apart during quarantine?

hello, everyone!  we're super excited to announce that we are naturally, spontaneously, unexpectedly... pregnant!  we remain entirely op...